Thursday, January 28, 2010

Everybody Sleeps

Everybody sleeps
Everybody sleeps
Every night we close our eyes
Until the morning creeps
Mountaineers on mountain tops
And divers in the deeps
They like to sleep
How do we know it's so
'Cause everybody, everybo
dy sleeps

There are people who sleep lightly
There are people who sleep sound
There are folks who tuck themselves in bed
And some sleep on the ground
There are people who sleep nightly
There are people who sleep days
But it really doesn't matter
Don't you know, it's so
'Cause you can sleep in oh so many ways

'Cause everybody, everybody sleeps
Everybody sleeps

Remember this wonderful song on Sesame Street? I remember it as a kid, and watching all of the different people sleeping. (sigh)

We've been having some sleeping issues at our house for several months (since her first cold). Diddles can't quite seem to get the hang of staying asleep at night. Her schedule goes something like this: 12:00am, 2:30am, 4:00am, 5:15am, 6:30am. She's five months...c'mon now. She gags on a binkie, she refuses a bottle, and gags on the top as well, we're slowly working on giving her solids to hold her over a little longer. I don't know. Every child is different, this I DO KNOW. The easiest way to put her back to bed when she awakes wailing in the night is to nurse her back to sleep, and just keep her with me in bed. That's a WHOLE LOTTA nursing, people. But, I worry about letting her cry in the night for fear of waking the entire house (I'm already wide awake) and feel badly sending Josh to work with little sleep. The other struggle we have is not only does she cry, but she busts out of her swaddle (my only baby who hates sleeping on her tummy) and then proceeds to claw at her head and face with her fingernails, and no matter how much I trim them, she still ends up with little scratches all over.

Who me?
Hey guys! Party in my crib tonight!
Don't I look underfed?

Well, you can imagine what I feel and look like in the morning when at 7am, twokids are ready for their hot breakfast after a full night's sleep, and itching to play and have fun...all...day. With an average of four hours of sleep a night, I'm exhausted and cranky, running on empty (literally), and a nap is a very fuzzy, very distant memory. Dear naps, I miss you. Love, Amy

Josh took pity on me, and came up with a plan to be in charge of putting her back to sleep when she cries out at night. He's good at "tough love". He also has a special gift of being able to fall back to sleep seconds after his head hits the pillow (lucky lad). So, he sleeps in the "crash bed" in her room, which is also a firmer mattress for his bad back. I sleep in our bedroom and come get her when I feel like she's genuinely hungry. Dear Josh, I miss you. Someday we will sleep together again. Love, Amy. Boo sleeps in her bed, unless she had a "bad dream" and then she drags her bedding into the hallway. Yaks....well...he's a whole other story.

With this new arrangement, we've needed to break Yaks of a bad habit that creeps in and out since we broke him of his binkie habit - that of sneaking into bed with Josh in the middle of the night. One night I realized that Boo was the ONLY one who was actually in HER own bed, where she belongs! What is the matter with us? So, I instituted a little sticker chart for both kids (to make it fair and even) that each night they stay in their beds "all the night", they get a sticker. Once they make it to the lilypad, they get a trip to the dollar store for a prize. It's worked great, up until last night.

Josh informed me that Yaks crawled into bed with him in the early morning, and Josh said, "Yaks, you won't get a sticker on your chart if you sleep in my bed." Yaks paused, and sat very quietly for a good minute and then said, "Dad, you can just split your chart wiff me! So, you can have duh sticker tuday." Isn't that hilarious? I had a good laugh, just imagining his little brain coming up with that "compromise" so he would still get a sticker on his chart, but that it would be Dad's sticker. Little stinker.

Here's hoping for a good night's sleep for all of us. Someday. :)

18 comments:

laurenthequeen said...

We only have 2 and I feel your pain. My boys still have a hard time sleeping through the night. Far too often there are 4 of us in a queen size bed. I can't even think about what it will be like if we add a number 3.

I do know that when we've had to let them cry it out at night, we've started on a Thursday or Friday. That way you can let each other get naps over the weekend.

My fingers are crossed for you.

Lenice said...

Take it from me Amy...it DOES get better. Hang in there.

Trish and Matt said...

Amy, you are not alone. Our baby isn't even here yet and I'm still up multiple times a night with my 3-year-old. It's so stinking frustrating -- and hard to be kind due to the lack of sleep.

Clearly I have no good advice for the older kids (since we're having the same problems) but for the baby, you may want to bite the big one and try letting her cry it out. I've heard 4-6 months is the ideal time. It's great that Josh is on board and already helping out. I always had to have Matt be the strong one when we were sleep training our kids because the crying would just unhinge me.

I like Lauren's suggestion ... start on the weekend. You could prep the kids by telling them what you're planning to do and how much help you're going to need from them. You could even offer an incentive for after you've all pulled it off together and everyone is sleeping better, a little celebration of sorts. My kids are both really starting to respond to these types of family goals and celebrations.

This week I've been up every hour or so during the night due to an infection I've got and I feel miserable. I can only imagine how you feel after 5 months of that! Best of luck and keep us posted.

Shelese said...

Someone told me that they basically stuff their baby during the day w/ feedings and then they are able to sleep through the night...? And another person told me the more you hold them during the day, the better they are at letting you leave them at night.

I don't have any of my own advise though... sounds like you are trying out some great ideas.

Allison said...

I'm so sorry sweetie!! I'm going to share a phrase with you that helps me get through my rough times even though 'm sure you've heard it before :)

THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

Depending on their age, I too let them cry it out. It helps them to learn to soothe themselves because sometimes, life prevents us from getting to them :)

While I don't have sleeping issues with my kids, I do have others. Where dod you find that neat frog chart? I'm trying desperately to get better organized and to help my kids get into more of a better routine a well and have been looking for chart ideas.

Shelese said...

babybonkie.com might help with the swaddling? they are just 21 inches long though. Is she tall?

Shelese said...

I just found this one! I think I might snag it for my tall guy (if they come in blue :) It's priced nicely too.

http://www.csnbaby.com/HALO-Innovations-Inc.-291-HAL1041.html

Shelese said...

http://www.mybabyclothesboutique.com/baby-swaddlers-c-5_76.html

Shelese said...

One last thing... I just read on a review that this lady would cut the bottom off the swaddler when her child got taller so that they could still use it to keep her baby's arms snuggled in.

Shelese said...

okay, one more... ha. socks on the baby's hands at night. prevents from all the scratching.

Shelese said...

I saw this movie trailer the other night before "Leap Year" anyway, you could tie something around the baby to swaddle instead of buying a swaddler. ha. shoe lace? scarf?

Shelese said...

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/3847826/babies_movie_trailer/

Cara and Steve said...

Amy, I'm sooo sorry... I can't imagine running on so little sleep. I get frustrated when I get less thn 6 or 7. Grace has a cold too, both Steve and I got one last week. She sleeps pretty good at night, but it is so hard to get her to sleep during the day and it doesn't help that she can't breathe all too great with a stuffy nose. I had no idea that Jane and Ben got out of their beds so much... I wish I were there to help... I would take the kids all day so you could sleep. We miss you guys :)

kthom said...

OH man...I hear YOU!! I'm a firm believer in letting them cry it out. Now that I have mr. "light sleeper" aka...Brody across the hall, its thrown a real kink on that theory. Have you ever put rice cereal in her milk...formula or real? My pediatrician had me putting rice cereal in Kate's milk around 3-4 months so her diapers weren't so runny (sorry about that) and it would fill her up for longer. It worked famously. Diaper rash cleared up and she began sleeping longer. She sleeps on her stomach so I don't know what to tell you there...does she roll yet? Eventually she'll be everywhere in her crib and will end up all over the place. I also have started putting Kate to bed awake so she gets to sleep on her time. I'm sorry sleepy Amy...I empathize....OH HOW I EMPATHIZE! xoxo

flower7657 said...

Amy and Josh, I am sorry. I would like to say...this to will pass-someday. When you come visit in a couple of weeks, I will take the evening sift. What would be better, is if you get Eliza to take a bottle, and you to leave for the evening and have a bed all to yourselfs!!! Love Mom

Dianna said...

It looks like you have a lot of support and a lot of advice. We are all very empathetic, so know that we are cheering you on and looking forward to that future blog post about all the great sleeping that is going on at your house. Just so you know - Brett had to send me for a few drives when we were letting our babies learn to sleep.

Plowgian Page said...

Spit duh sticker! Ha, ha!

Plowgian Page said...

Sorry about the sleep problems. Sorry, I didn't read all these other comments. Has anyone suggested the miracle blanket?