Friday, January 11, 2008
Date Night: Redefined
When JB and I were dating, I always looked forward to Friday nights. He's an amazing planner, and would usually out-do himself weekly with fun-filled and inexpensive ways to show me a GREAT time. After we got married and had our kids, we struggled to do "date night" with the constraints of small kids, nursing, bedtimes, babysitter costs, sheer exhaustion, etc. Although we have wonderful family members who happily watch our kids so we can go out, I've felt it's a bit unrealistic to request them to sit for us on a weekly basis.
JB has heard several times in recent priesthood trainings and other meetings about the importance of weekly date nights and expressed his discouragement at our inability to do so. So, we brainstormed and have come up with a happy solution, which we're kicking off tonight! We're simply having a date here at home that has more structure and planning than an ordinary evening together. We make a plan to get the kids to bed at 8:00PM, clean up the house and then "go out" on a date. We'll play a game, rent/checkout a movie or have another couple over, make a treat, etc. I find the nicest thing is to have something specific to look forward to - a plan, so that we don't end up just surfing the TV channels until bedtime.
As an aside, it's been actually really great - this Writer's Strike! I haven't realized how much TV I watch. I've read three books since Christmas and have spent more time really talking to JB in the evenings, instead of watching TV. The other night we stayed up till 11:30PM just talking! We were kicking ourselves the next morning, but it was sure fun!
Anyway, back to date night. Tonight we're going to be making cheese fondue (poor man's version), drinking a bottle of Martinelli's and watching a red box movie. I'm excited! Now, what to call it - Home Dating? Dating Indoors? I don't know what the title should be. Maybe you could help me out. Any fun ideas for an indoor date would also be appreciated. HAPPY FRIDAY!
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